Stop Waiting For The “Perfect Moment” And Just Let Go!

Lifestyle

Jun 14

Today, let’s talk about letting go…it truly is a multidimensional process. We have to learn to effectively let go of bad habits, old clothes, and people that no longer bring us JOY!

Listen, letting go helps create space for growth, trust and faith in your self and your true potential. I want to share 5 things that have helped me grow over the years:

Don’t worry so much about who shows up for you. Make sure that you show up for yourself.
You can let people go and not regret it.
The more you like yourself, the less you’ll need others to.
Be so confident about God’s plan that you don’t even get upset when things don’t go your way.
Forgiveness doesn’t always mean re-entry.

As we are half way through the year what better time to make the necessary changes in your life and just let some things go such as…

WAITING FOR THAT “PERFECT MOMENT”

If you keep putting things off until that “perfect moment” comes, you can end up waiting for a very long time. Of course, it’s smart to wait with certain serious decisions or commitments. But, if there are things you know you’ve been putting off for years, and you’re still telling yourself you’ll get to them when the “time is right,” that time might never come.

Trust me on this one.

So many of us spend the majority of our time waiting. People spend their entire lives… waiting. We say: “I have to wait to get a better job, the timing isn’t right,” “I will be happy when I get a bigger house” or “I will be happy when I’ll meet the one,” “I will start when I feel ready.” You can spend your entire life, saying these things to yourself; putting things off because the timing isn’t perfect. You can spend the rest of your life waiting to start living. But instead I’ll encourage you to not fall into this trap.

SELF-DOUBT

No, this is not an easy thing to let go of. It’s also something we all feel- whether it’s once in a while or every single day. I think that Marianne Williamson put it beautifully when she wrote “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” You don’t always have to pay attention to that that voice inside that creates doubt and holds you captive. We’re all unique and different, we all have something special to share with the world. So I’ll encourage you step out in faith today.

JUDGMENT

Judging is part of being human and letting go of it completely is nearly impossible. Both when judging ourselves and other people. We tend to play out different scenarios, compare and replay specific situations, beat ourselves up over stupid, insignificant things, constantly judging others and ourselves. Most of the time, we judge others through measures, values, which are important to us. We tend to forget that it is not up to us to dictate values and rules by which other people should live. The less we judge ourselves, the less we judge others. The goal isn’t to try to force-stop judging altogether- it is to learn to recognize the moment when judgment takes place, and learn to let it go.

COMPARISON

This is something that I truly believe becomes less of a problem for us as we get older. Still, there are so many occasions during which we jump into that “grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”mentality. No. The grass is greener where you water it. Instead of wasting time comparing yourself, your life and accomplishments to others, focus on yourself. Take care of your own lawn. Comparing yourself to others won’t make things any easier or better for you. The only thing that will make your life better is if you put in the work and effort to making it better. So, focus on your own stuff and water your own grass.

BOTTLING UP YOUR EMOTIONS

Your unexpressed emotions will weigh you down. This is one of the most important things to let go of in this season. Sometimes we don’t have the energy, or simply don’t want to deal with some of the things we feel, think, and we compartmentalize them. We put them away in a box. As a defense mechanism, we also avoid situations that trigger those emotions to surface.

Sooner or later, all those intense feelings will come pouring out in a messy, uncontrolled way. Don’t keep your emotions bottled up. Talk to a friend, find a therapist. If you’re suppressing negative feelings about one of your relationships, talk to the other person in a kind, non-judgmental way. When you’re unable or don’t feel ready to talk to someone else, write. Express your emotions by journaling, or simply write them out in the form of a letter to the person who hurt you, maybe write a letter to yourself. Doing this will not only help with the emotional toll but working through your feelings will also help you understand them better.

TAKING SMALL THINGS PERSONALLY

Not everything is about you. Don’t overthink it if someone is being a little short with you, isn’t very friendly, doesn’t laugh at your joke- whatever. Learn to let these things go and stop jumping into conclusions. I used to feel this way a lot when I started my first “big girl” job and had to deal with the general public on a daily basis. If someone was rude to me, I’d think that it must have been because I wasn’t being clear enough, or maybe I was asking the obvious or annoying questions. I couldn’t stand people being rude to me when I was simply doing my job, nothing else.

Truth is, not everyone is a perfectly pleasant and kind person. Some people can’t help but act like they’re doing you a favor even when just doing what they’re supposed to. At the same time, not everyone is always having a great day or feels well, or is in a great mood. People go through their own things and we can’t think that everything is about us.

PERFECTIONISM

Striving for perfectionism is like having an all-or-nothing attitude, where unless you get 100%, you get nothing. It’s you, spending more time worrying about failing or not doing well enough than you do focusing on what it is you’re actually trying to accomplish. Things will not always go as planned and the sooner you accept that, the less time you’ll waste trying to get things to be “perfect.”

TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Toxic relationships are very destructive- especially romantic relationships. They tend to feel almost like an addiction. You can’t help but answer every text, every phone call, even when you know you will end up getting hurt. To let go of a toxic relationship, or negative people in your life, you have to be fully committed to walking away. You have to remember that as much as you like the other person, you cannot change people.

UNHEALTHY HABITS

Focus on one at a time, one that bothers you the most. Is it overindulging in food or alcohol? Is it not getting enough sleep, not exercising? Don’t make a “resolution” but make a plan instead. How exactly are you going to change things? What tools will you use to make the change easier for yourself? Don’t try to change everything at once- focus on one habit at a time!

FEAR OF FAILURE

The thing we all struggled with at some point in life. One of the easiest ways for me to let go of the fear of failure is to tell myself that at some point, it will happen. So what? What’s the worst that can happen if I do fail? How else will I learn, if not by doing, trying, by making mistakes? As long as you keep trying, keep learning and keep getting up, you’re winning.

There are many things to let go of in this season. Maybe you say “yes” to too much; you try to do too many things at once. Perhaps you hold on to your past just a little too hard, you’re holding a grudge and don’t know how to let go and forgive. Don’t be afraid of change. Let go of anything and anyone that doesn’t make you happy or bring you JOY!

And, no matter how small, do not forget to celebrate all of the wins you’ve accomplished.

So what if it takes a bit longer than planned? So what, if you fail miserably, time and time again? Every single time you fail, you learn something new about yourself. Every single time you fail, you still get closer to getting where you want to be because you get to carry those lessons with you.